Thank you Thank you Thank you to all who were helpful here 
Stupid thing kept popping up asking to restart now or restart later with a 5 minute timer set to restart automatically. Pushing the window to the side would have been like moving a time bomb from the lunch room to the basement, its still going to go off. Solution 1 worked for me, by stopping the service. Then I went to start control panel security settings manage security settings for: automatic updates Download updates for me, but let me choose when to install them.
There, fixed forever!